My collection of wise, and not so wise, postings

Thursday 7 June 2012

Unintentionally doing well, by being treated good


Going to the dentist is something of a struggle for me. It is nothing personal against the dentist (to be honest it is one of those professions I could never have myself, but I am ever so grateful someone else does), but the smell and the sounds combined with the total lack of control just drives me into the state of nervous apprehension.

Never-the-less; it is important to take care of your teeth, so regular visits to the dentist as well as meticulous daily dental care are routines I really try to perform with no evasion. No matter how nerve-racking I may find it.

Maybe it seems a bit over the top, this aversion of mine, but to make a very long story short: The state of my teeth has been severely damaged by problems caused by orthodontics and then (embrace yourself for this one: )choleithiasis (for many years mistaken to be an eating disturbance). Dentists have moaned and groaned over the work they have been presented to whenever I have an appointment. 

Last week I had a terrible toothache. I have postponed pulling a tooth out for two years, only because I have dreaded it, and three months ago I finally hurt so bad I made an appointment for having the tooth surgically removed. There is a four months waiting list…
I called last week to ask how much painkillers I could take, and I was “lucky”: Someone had cancelled their appointment, so I could come in and get the surgery done the next day.

A bit shaky, not very brave and with severe tensions throughout my entire body, I showed up. Confessed to my cowardice and filled in the forms… you know; where you state if you have any allergies, if you smoke, if you are in any way medicated (I was very close to answer that one: “I wish!”) and so forth. Not one single question about how you feel about going to the dentist or if you in any way are likely to freak out. Sometimes people who design the forms really forget about the obvious and really important and useful info…

Anyway, a very kind-looking middle aged woman called me and showed me the way to the x-ray room, consecutively telling me about the procedure… not about the tooth-pulling, mind you, but about the X-ray and how it would be exercised.

I walked through the hallway, looking through every half shut door half ways dreading (or secretly hoping?) to see someone twist and turn, strapped down to the dentist’s chair, while cursing the dentist in muffled words you can’t really understand, but the tone says it all.

None of that: Everybody spoke in low voices and there was no frantic activity trying to limit damages or prevent anyone getting hurt (due to reflexes, of course, not intentionally). The sound of my steps was deadened by the high quality resilient flooring. The thought hit me as I wandered behind the assistant down the hall: “There is a lot of psychology going on here. These guys have come across edgy patients before”.
 
The X-ray went well. You do not get an X-ray film, too big to fit in your mouth, stuck in your mouth, cutting the inside of your cheeks, to bite on anymore. It is merely a stick you bite onto with your front teeth. Piece of cake! Well, not literally, but you get the picture…ehm… understand .

In the dentist’s chair I was wrapped up in green paper operation linen, and before they covered my eyes I was told why; it was purely for the purpose of protecting me from the really bright light. So comforting to be informed, but I was still tense, my body was shivering and I just could not stop tears from running.

Throughout the entire procedure both the dentist and the assistant talked me through what was going on, what they were going to do, what they had just done and they kept patting my cheek, stroking my hair and gently pat my tears away. And they never even mentioned it! I was not embarrassed or felt awkward about it at all!

I never felt any hurt, never any kind of discomfort and I never sensed any impatience or irritation at all. I was just taken care of.

As I was about to leave I told the dentist thank you; “You really did well, thank you, you are both good at what you do and you are a good man”. Maybe it was insanity caused by relief, but I still stand for what I told him.
Especially since he looked at me and told me: “You did really well yourself!”

Monday 4 June 2012

Live Like You Were Dying

Some times you feel like saying things you have problems putting into words. This time I let Tim McGraw say it for me because a few years back a lab test came back, and the news were really not good. It turned out fine, due to early stage. So grateful for every day I get to live and love after that experience.
I am not a man, but the thoughts running through my head were much like these...

Tim McGraw – Live Like You Were Dying

Live Like You Were Dying

He said
"I was in my early forties
With a lot of life before me
And a moment came that stopped me on a dime
I spent most of the next days
Looking at the x-rays
Talkin' 'bout the options
And talkin' 'bout sweet time"
I asked him
"When it sank in 
That this might really be the real end
How's it hit you
When you get that kind of news?
Man, what'd you do?"

He said
"I went skydiving
I went Rocky Mountain climbing
I went 2.7 seconds on a bull named Fu Man Chu
And I loved deeper
And I spoke sweeter
And I gave forgiveness I'd been denying"
And he said
"Someday I hope you get the chance
To live like you were dying"

He said
"I was finally the husband
That most of the time I wasn't
And I became a friend a friend would like to have
And all of a sudden going fishin'
Wasn't such an imposition
And I went three times that year I lost my dad
I finally read the Good Book, and I
Took a good, long, hard look
At what I'd do if I could do it all again
And then

I went skydiving
I went Rocky Mountain climbing
I went 2.7 seconds on a bull named Blue Manchu
And I loved deeper 
And I spoke sweeter
And I gave forgiveness I'd been denying"
And he said
"Someday I hope you get the chance
To live like you were dying
Like tomorrow was a gift
And you've got eternity
To think about
What you'd do with it
What could you do with it
What did I do with it?
What would I do with it?

Skydiving
I went Rocky mountain climbing
I went 2.7 seconds on a bull named Blue Manchu
And I loved deeper
And I spoke sweeter
And I watched an eagle as it was flying"
And he said
"Someday I hope you get the chance
To live like you were dying
To live like you were dying
To live like you were dying"