a.
The rules had nothing to do with the moral
in the story. In fact it had nothing to do with the story at all! (Unless you take
it for granted the donkey didn’t understand the initial intention, and
therefore felt nothing but gratitude, rather than resentment at the end.) Have
no idea why it was attached.
b.
Most of the rules come across as somewhat… I
don’t know; I just find them unnatural to human nature. It’s as if you need to
be a superhuman to achieve happiness. I am probably being very unfair, but I
just came to thinking that:
Free
your heart from hatred - Forgive.
This
one is not hard. I mean… To spend time and energy on someone who deliberately
hurt you in in the first place, in any way, is just stupid. The only one who
really feels the hurt is yourself, and that really isn’t worth the time and
agony. It is really hard to find reasons why what happened is not important: It
takes some time to come to terms with the situation. Being only human I admit I
need to find reasons why it is insignificant. I am not a good enough person to
just brush feelings aside and immediately forgive… unless it is a trifle thing
like when my coworker eats my chewy lemon toffee without asking or when my
friend borrows an outfit and it comes back with a ripped zipper.
Betrayal,
when you feel trust is broken, is worse. But think about why and what the issue
was; the offence itself might not be such a great mischief, even though the
feeling of broken trust is serious enough. I am very good at forgiving,
eventually… not so good at forgetting.
Free your mind from
worries - Most never happens.
I am old enough to have discovered this
myself. To be pragmatic is not always an advantage, but when it comes to invent
possible horrors: nope, I don’t do that. This saves me a lot of worries and
pondering and mindful agony. There is a chance my stress mess has something to
do with it: I am too busy dealing with what is here and now. There is no time
to ponder about what is not a reality. Yet. That being said: I totally
understand how troublesome it is, to more emotional people, to wonder about the
consequences possible scenarios might cause.
Live simply and
appreciate what you have.
Everything is
relative. To live simply is not up to the same standard for everyone. Some
people are quite content when they own two t-shirts, one in the laundry and one
to wear. Others need more equipment and facilities to find they live a simple
life. Either way is it hard to be fully happy.
Most times it is not
the lack or abundance of things which are the main reasons for a bit of
unhappiness. Maybe we do have the things, but we lack that special person in
our circle. It’s not necessarily the life partner or significant other who is
absent. Often we need that compatible friend, teacher, pastor or some other
person who can help you complete your life.
When you feel that
kind of want, everything else you may have in your life just seems less
important and it is hard to appreciate what you have. Sadly people can’t be
ordered online, even though the traffic on chat-lines indicate many try.
Give more.
This rule reminds me
of magazines: lose weight, cook perfect meals, bake the perfect bakery, dress
well, be groomed and fresh at all times, stay young, be fit… become better,
smarter, nicer, more successful… we are NEVER good enough; no matter how hard
we try. We already give so much time, money, effort, attention… and what we get
is: If you are not happy do more! Be more! Give more!
In theory what goes
around comes around, but that is not always the case. Often when we do give a
piece of ourselves and our qualities the thanks we get is: they want even more.
Ingratitude is how the world pays you.
It makes me tired
and worn out. Charity work lack more and more people. Not nearly enough people
volunteer anymore, and the enthusiasts are reaching older age. It is the same
thing nearly all over the western world; Younger people are already preoccupied
supporting the activities their own family and friends engage in, or they just
don’t have the energy to put more effort into others. They struggle as it is,
trying to keep up their standard of living.
I wish some guru, who told us to share more
and be each other’s support came in fashion. Rather than just face the demand
of you giving, and then give some more. It is difficult to be a generous
person, when you feel you are taken for granted.
Expect less from
people but more from yourself.
Every time I felt I
made an achievement it was when I met people’s expectations. Even at work I
know my coworkers and students have expectations to my performance. Why should
they expect less? Why should I expect less from others than what I know they
are capable of?
It is no secret I
strongly believe in being the best possible version of myself. That is my
drive. I also strongly believe in letting people around me become the best
possible version of themselves. It is called self-realization.
There is a good
chanse I am wrong, but to self-actualize trigger both your interests and your
self-esteem, and when you achieve that feeling, whether it is because you focus
more on what you do today or you find it in your heart to give more, that is
when I believe you are happy.
